The bystander effect

And true to form, just as things start to feel better, another bump in the road appears……

This weekend I was the victim of an attempted mugging. I was OK and would be mugger didn’t get anything, but it shook me up – a lot, I keep hoping that just for a few weeks I can have a drama free time, but it never seems to go that way. I will say though the police have been really good in dealing with this.

It is almost exactly a year since I was attacked at another station, and it’s always a horrible experience, this time though it was my things rather than me that was targeted, and at the end of the day, things are not important.

I wonder if there is something about me that invites this kind of thing, do I have some sign above my head? I know I have put myself in dangerous situations in the past, that was what happened last year, I intervened to protect others and was hurt, not badly but enough, but this weekend I was being careful, mindful that I can get myself in difficulties and still this happens. But maybe it’s just statistics, a woman travelling alone must look like an opportunity, and I travel a lot, so maybe that is all it is.

Once again, the bystander effect kicked in and people looked on while doing nothing, it’s disheartening that people don’t help, not getting involved I understand, but perhaps getting help, how hard is that?

Perhaps though, that is the story of my life – no one intervened back then either, when I was a helpless child, people knew what was happening, of that I am sure, but they did nothing to help.

The bystander effect is responsible for so much that is wrong with our world, I am reminded of the Edmund Burgh quote that does the rounds now and then:

“All that is necessary for the triumph of evil, is that good men do nothing.”

Enough said!


8 thoughts on “The bystander effect

  1. Ellen says:

    Sorry this happened to you. 😦

  2. words4jp says:

    I am so sorry about this. I can guarantee you if I was there, I would have helped you. You are right – people stand by and do nothing – which is sad. I am happy you are not hurt.

  3. It’s a terrible feeling to be vulnerable but have no one come to your aid. I’m sorry you were so alone, then and now.

  4. Cat says:

    What a terrible experience for you, it’s understandable you feel the way you do. I was a victim of violent crime years ago, it never leaves us.

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